恋爱假期（粤语版）

    《The Holiday》中有一段台词，是一个老电影人对因为失恋而万般痛苦的女孩说，你本应该是自己人生里的女主角，你却非要在别人的戏里做友情客串，这就是你痛苦的根本原因。那女孩啜泣着点头，说是啊，每个人都应该是自己的主角。

    自己的主角，这才是重中之重。

    这老人的话只说出了一半来。很多时候，人们的痛苦不是在于跑到别人的戏里去做友情客串，而是他们明明只是友情客串却还非要想在别人的戏里做主角。他/她不爱我，他/她不珍惜我，他们看不起我，他们对不起我，他们伤害我......所以呢？我要让他们后悔，我要让他们爱我，我要让他们看得起我，我要让他们尊重我，我要让他们对我道歉......

    可是你有没有想过呢，别人的看法对你就这么重要吗？你就必须是太阳一样照耀四方让所有人都不能忽视吗？你就一定得是所有人人生路上的照明灯和指路人吗？你为什么会这么想呢？因为你没有自信，你缺乏自尊，你不够自爱。你对自己的肯定，全部建立在别人的爱、尊重、信赖和仰视上。别人都觉得你好，你才觉得自己好。你根本认识不到自己的价值在什么地方。你做的不是自己爱的、梦想的、追求的事情，你做的是别人眼里重要的、赞赏的、肯定的事情；你所有的目的不过是那一个光环，是别人的言语、眼光构建的虚伪的光环。你想像上帝般的主角一样驾临在别人的戏剧里，大家都膜拜着成功的你，或者美艳动人魅力无敌，或者在最好的大学学最好的专业，或者做着人人向往的工作拿着无与伦比的高薪，或者有个有钱有貌有车有房的老公/老婆，总之你永远是第一。谁提起你来都要说你真是强，你真是美，你真是无敌，失去你的人要捶胸顿足地后悔，鄙视过你的人要匍匐地在你脚下忏悔，不够爱你的人要全心全意回头不顾一切地对你追随。这就是你想要的人生剧情吗？

    这个时候你的剧场里，谁是真正的主角呢？早就不是你自己，是那些不爱你、不信任你、不尊重你的人，是他们的眼光和言语，是他们的观念和信仰。你为了他们而活着。你从不想真正的你的心灵深处，你要的是什么。你根本就不爱你自己，你爱的是那些人的仰视和爱戴。

    明明你只是别人戏里的龙套，别人对你的看不起、对不起都只是一出完全可以删减掉的小剧目。你却把这些看得太重太重了，重到这成为你的戏剧的主线剧情。你硬是要做别人戏里的主角，以你一个本是路人甲的身份，别说那一连串第一有多难做到，有几个人能做到，就算你做到了，你也依然不是自己戏里的主角，别人俯首称臣的虚荣心能作为你生活快乐安宁的全部依据吗？你没有自己，你的心是空虚的，你的精神是飘渺的，你说，你怎么会不痛苦。

    你别傻了。别把自己装的像个悲剧英雄。曾经傻过也别再傻下去了。你必须有强大的内心力量、牢固的精神追求，你才能过自己的生活，演自己的故事，做自己的主角。这个世界上没什么比你爱自己、认清自己、尊重自己更重要的事情。你成为最好的你自己，你才是你人生里的主角，你再也不会计较别人的戏里你戏份的多少。这时候你才坚强安宁，你才不会再萎靡在你无聊无趣无意义的痛苦里。

    如果你是自己的主角，你就该明白，即使你全身心地付出去爱一个人，对你最重要的也不是那个人回应的多少，而是你对那个人好的时候你的快乐、你心里惦念的温暖。那人一样地爱你，那固然最好，那人不够爱你或根本不爱你，那也不重要，因为他/她不是你戏里的主角，你的剧本不是依靠在此人身上，不至于失去了他/她，你的剧组就要全盘倒闭。

    如果你是自己的主角，你就能懂得，你遇到生命的另一半，那固然最好，遇不到，你自己照样有自己的人生旅程，照样可以温暖自己血液循环不好的身体，照样有丰富的精神生活，照样有纵使辛苦你也愿意付出一切的追求。

    如果你是自己的主角，你就不会再那么在意别人的侧目、失望、冷眼或者是仰慕、追求、赞叹。你明白自己要的就该是自己坚持的，而不能为了别人认为应该怎样、别人希望能够怎样、别人嘲笑或尊重什么而放弃你自己的想法。你心底的声音，才该是你的宗教你的诗。别人的理论系统不能成为你的教义。你是为了自己而活，不是为了父母的骄傲、伴侣的赞赏、子女的依靠，更加不是为了那些有的没的的配角路人龙套的指指点点。当你不是自己了，你就真的什么都不是了。

    如果你是自己的主角，你就应该审视自己，不是关心别人的评论。你自己的剧本你让别人写，一辈子活过去了，回想起浮华虚无的一路，你情何以堪，你的所谓成功，究竟能在你心里下什么样的定义。别人看你两眼说你两句，你就遍体鳞伤地快要活不下去，你是一辈子的早产儿待在保温箱里吗？

    你长期以来的痛苦都是因为你在你自己的剧目里没找到自己，还硬是想要在别人的曲目里出风头。不是说你必须沉静安宁，你可以张扬自负，可以不切实际，可以漏洞百出，可以理想主义。但是，都请在你自己的人生戏剧里。这样你跌倒了也能以最快的速度站起来，那痛苦也是暂时而有意义的，是可以解决的。别说你几乎做不成别人戏里的一号演员，就算你是了，你就像菟丝附蓬麻一样，皮不存在了，你这毛也就灰飞烟灭了。菟丝自己不能选择自己的命运，但是你是可以的。你又何必非做那缠树的藤不可呢。没了谁你会活不下去呢，你们又不是连体婴儿。自己有点主见有点骨气，自己的白纸空着，非要去别人有主题的画纸上插个大大的自画像，你的重点到底在哪里呢。

    你放弃别人的人生吧。放弃你那些不切实际、没有解答的痛苦。在你自己的路里安心地走下去，你是自己人生的主角，纵使没有人喝彩，那又有什么关系。你这一路走得内心充实、精神抖擞，那还有什么会是更重要的吗？

一直很喜欢Kate Winslet 一个演技派 非常洒脱自然的女人！
也很喜欢Jude Law 因为他确实太帅了~

喜欢这部电影因为很喜欢它的剧本
所以在这一起share一下 经典的台词

其实开篇那段写的太美了 尤其是Kate来念
I have found almost everything ever written about love...to be true.
Shakespeare said,"Journeys end in lovers meeting."
What an extraordinary thought.
Personally, I have not experienced anything remotely close to that...but I'm more than willing to believe
Shakespeare had.
I suppose I think about love more than anyone really should.
I'm constantly amazed by its sheer power to alter and define our lives.
It was Shakespeare who also said,"Love is blind."
Now, that is something I know to be true.

For some, quite inexplicably...Love fades.
For others...Love is simply lost.
But then, of course,love can also be found.
Even if just for the night.
And then there's another kind of love.
The cruelest kind.
The one that almost kills its victims.
It's called unrequited love.
Of that, I am an expert..
Most love stories are about people who fall in love with each other.
But what about the rest of us?What about our stories?
Those of us who fall in love alone.
We are the victims of the one-sided affair.
We are the cursed of the loved ones.
We are the unloved ones.
The walking wounded.
The handicapped without the advantage of a great parking space.
Yes, you are looking at one such individual.
And I have willingly loved...that man for over three miserable years.
The absolute worst years of my life.
The worst Christmases,the worst birthdays.
New Year's Eves brought in by tears and Valium(安定).
These years I've been in love have been the darkest days of my life...all because I'm cursed by being
in love with a man who does not...and will not love me back.
Oh, God, just the sight of him.
Heart. pounding, throat thickening,absolutely can't swallow.
All the usual symptoms.

Iris约Arthur一起吃晚饭 Arthur说的话是那么的通透
As a matter of fact, he is A huge schmuck.
How did you know?He let you go.
This is not a hard one to figure out.
Iris, in the movies we have leading ladies...and we have the best friend.
You, I can tell, are a leading lady.But for some reason,you're behaving like the best friend.
You're so right.
You're supposed to be the leading lady of your own life, for God's sake.
Arthur, l've been going to a therapist for three years.And she's never explained anything to me that well.

Iris安慰Miles那段对话也十分的睿智经典
I know it's hard to believe people when they say, "l know how you feel."
But I actually know how you feel.
（You see...I was...seeing someone back in London.
We worked for the same newspaper.And then I found out that he was also seeing this other girl, Sarah...from the Circulation Department
on the 19th floor.It turned out that he wasn't in love with me like I thought.）
What l'm trying to say is...I understand feeling as small and as insignificant...as humanly possible.
How it can actually ache in places that you didn't know you had inside you.
It doesn't matter how many new haircuts you get...
or gyms you join...
or how many glasses of chardonnay you drink with girlfriends.
You still go to bed every night going over every detail...and wonder what you did wrong or how you could have misunderstood.
And how in the hell, for that brief moment...you could think that you were that happy?
And sometimes you can even convince yourself...that he'll see the light and show up at your door.
And after all that...however long "all that" may be...you'll go somewhere new.
And you'll meet people who make you feel worthwhile again.
And little pieces of your soul will finally come back.
And all that fuzzy stuff...those years of your life that you wasted...
that will eventually begin to fade.
...

   关于这部电影,打动我的并不是爱情,而是人如何从困境中走出来并且重新认识自己。
   片子的两个女人亚曼达和艾丽丝都是情场失意的女子，表面上看来她们的处境是很不同的：一个是因为自己的强势导致男友无法忍受而在外偷腥，就算是亚曼达赶他出门时，他还在为自己辩解（虽然最后无奈地承认了事实）；另一个是自己深爱的男友却光明正大的在你面前和别人在一起，甚至他到宣布自己结婚后还可以轻易的要求你继续充当他随时可以利用的避风港。这是一个身处弱势的女人。但是深层一点看，她们却是有着同样的问题：并没有真正认识自己的内心，不知道自己的爱是什么样子。亚曼达很想为失去的爱情哭泣，可事实是在她父亲离婚离家，拿走过道的行李箱之后，她就再也挤半点眼泪了；艾丽丝则总是为那个用电子邮件和电话短信追踪自己的男人心烦意乱。
   可以说这个片子里的人，两两具有相似的地方。上面说的是同样作为女人的亚曼达和艾丽斯。接下来是老亚瑟和艾丽斯，亚瑟对于像他致敬的晚会，他是拒绝的，原因是他的不自信，他说他不愿意自己无法走上舞台上，也不愿意只对着台下寥寥几个人发言。但是他却让艾丽丝看自己推荐的片子，那里面的女人都自信优雅，具有超越常人的力量，这最后也改变了艾丽丝。对于他自己他却不了解，他的症结和艾丽丝是一样的。在艾丽丝和麦尔斯的共同努力下，这老头也终于获得了自信，能够轻盈地跳（跳舞）上舞台，侃侃而谈。亚瑟和艾丽丝在影片的结尾完成了互相的拯救。
   麦尔斯的感情经历和艾丽丝有着相似之处，影片安排在致敬晚会开始前艾丽丝和找上门来的那个坏男人的对谈和麦尔斯坐在女友玛姬面前听其道歉的桥段同时进行，到后来两人在晚会上的相视而笑正是为了突现他们之间的这种相似点，以及对于错误感情的解脱和自我救赎。
   亚曼达和葛汉柏都是对自己要求严格的人。亚曼达在遭遇背叛后大声对自己说冷静冷静，葛汉柏让自己成为好爸爸、好编辑和好男人的愿望始终沉重的压迫着他，他们的相遇和相爱是注定的，因为他们可以在对方身上看到彼此的痛苦。
   虽然我不敢说他们真的从此以后就能幸福快乐的生活在一起，但至少我们要相信自我的力量，也要相信别人的力量。这些都可以帮助我们更清晰的认识自己，并且从困境中解脱吧。

Arthur Abbott: Say a man and a woman both need something to sleep in and both go to the same men's pajama department. The man says to the salesman, "I just need bottoms," and the woman says, "I just need a top." They look at each other and that's the 'meet cute.'

Amanda: You know Graham, I just broke up with someone and considering you just showed up and you're insanely good-looking and probably won't remember me anyway... I'm thinking we should have sex... If you want.
Graham: Is that a trick question?

Graham: I have the classic male problem of no follow through. Absolutely never remember to call after a date - but as this wasn't a date, I guess I'm off the hook.

Iris: Because you're hoping you're wrong. And every time she does something that tells you she's no good, you ignore it. And every time she comes through and suprises you, she wins you over, and you lose that argument with yourself, that she's not for you.
Miles: Exactly, and on top of that there's the old standby, I can't believe a girl like that would actually be with a guy like me.

Miles: Iris, if you were a melody... I used only the good notes.

Miles: Don't blow away.

Arthur Abbott: Iris, in the movies, we have leading ladies and we have the best friend. You, I can tell, are a leading lady, but for some reason, you're behaving like the best friend.

Iris: You're supposed to be the leading lady in your own life, for God's sake!

Iris: I've found almost everything ever written about love to be true. Shakespeare said "Journeys end in lovers meeting." What an extraordinary thought. Personally, I have not experienced anything remotely close to that, but I am more than willing to believe Shakespeare had. I suppose I think about love more than anyone really should. I am constantly amazed by its sheer power to alter and define our lives. It was Shakespeare who also said "love is blind". Now that is something I know to be true. For some quite inexplicably, love fades; for others love is simply lost. But then of course love can also be found, even if just for the night. And then, there's another kind of love: the cruelest kind. The one that almost kills its victims. Its called unrequited love. Of that I am an expert. Most love stories are about people who fall in love with each other. But what about the rest of us? What about our stories, those of us who fall in love alone? We are the victims of the one sided affair. We are the cursed of the loved ones. We are the unloved ones, the walking wounded. The handicapped without the advantage of a great parking space! Yes, you are looking at one such individual. And I have willingly loved that man for over three miserable years! The absolute worst years of my life! The worst Christmas', the worst Birthday's, New Years Eve's brought in by tears and valium. These years that I have been in love have been the darkest days of my life. All because I've been cursed by being in love with a man who does not and will not love me back. Oh god, just the sight of him! Heart pounding! Throat thickening! Absolutely can't swallow! All the usual symptoms.

Iris: It doesn't matter how many new haircuts you get, or gyms you join, or how many glasses of chardonnay you drink with your girlfriends... you still go to bed every night going over every detail and wonder what you did wrong or how you could have misunderstood. and how in the hell for that brief moment you could think that you were that happy. And sometimes you can even convince yourself that he'll see the light and show up at your door. And after all that, however long all that may be, you'll go somewhere new. and you'll meet people who make you feel worthwhile again. And little peices of your soul will finally come back. And all that fuzzy stuff, those years of your life that you wasted, that will eventually begin to fade.

卡梅隆迪亚兹家里有个按钮，按一下，窗子就全封闭了，不进光，跟黑天一样。
她本人就是这样一个女人，全自动的生活，缺乏惊喜。屋里的陈设也都黑白分明，带着女强人的范儿。
长期活在非女人状态下，让她有了许多不良症状，比如静下来的时候会突然听到电影片花的声音，比如她的泪腺出了状况，似乎是干涸了。但是显然没有。
但是女人终归是女人，摆不脱的浪漫情结。
她找了凯特温丝莱特换住处度假。
凑巧，凯特刚刚被人fire，而且泪腺极其发达，往往话没出口，胸腔已经喘个不止了。连居住的小屋也是一副我见犹怜的架势。
她的心里也有个情结，就是她熟知自己的渺小，并且习惯了这样的生活状态。
于是她来到卡梅隆的豪宅面前，有了脱胎换骨的感觉。

卡梅隆遇见了帅到没话说并丧妻带有两个女儿的裘德洛。
她向他说Hi，他说，咱们去ml，他们就去了。
帅哥美女就是好办事。

处处图新鲜的凯特，学雷锋做好事，帮助老头回家，（值得一提的是，那个老头子真可爱）顺便认识了胖墩子杰克布莱克。
他向她说Hi，他们什么都没干。因为男的不是帅哥。

故事两两展开，讲得特别乏味。
所有情节均不难想象，卡梅隆最后一定笑着哭，凯特一定笑着说不再哭。
编剧的能力很叫人鄙视，之所以给四颗星，完全是冲着四个主演，他们的表演支撑起了这么一个偶像剧。

提点意见，卡梅隆太老了一点，凯特呢，脸上的皱纹太多了一点，杰克自然是太胖了一点，至于裘德洛，实在是太帅了一点。真的，他好看得太过分了。
我要说一万遍：
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那变幻莫测的小眼神，魅力无边的笑容，你黄晓明学一万年也学不会！