非凡家庭第一季

《摩登家庭》（Modern Family）是一部以伪纪录片（Mockumentary）形式叙述与拍摄的情景喜剧，由二十世纪福克斯电影公司朱丽·鲍温出品，克里斯托弗·劳伊德（Christopher Lloyd）和斯蒂芬·勒维坦（Steven Levitan）创作，泰·布利尔、艾德·奥尼尔等主演。于2009年9月23日由美国广播公司（ABC）首播，已连续蝉联五届艾美奖喜剧类最佳剧集。
该剧讲述了三对各有不同的美国家庭：一对普通父母与三个孩子、一对同性恋夫夫从越南领养了养女组成三口之家，一个60岁的老头迎娶了位热辣的哥伦比亚异国美女，美女还带着个捣蛋的11岁胖儿子。最奇妙的是，其实他们是一个大家庭。
这部喜剧，每集围绕一个有关家庭元素的主题展开情节，其间穿插数段主角们记录式的采访。虽然没画外音衬托笑点爆出，但是这种态度严肃讲喜剧的方式，也让人忍俊不禁。《摩登家庭》走的实最传统的伦理剧路线，一大家小冲突不断，却又其乐融融，精致的剧本把众多个性鲜明又彼此不同的人物巧妙地融合在了一部剧当中。这部剧总是在我笑过之后又有想哭的冲动，又总是在剧尾恍然大悟，而且拿了那么多奖也不是没有道理的。

S01E01
[Jay]
We're from different worlds, yet somehow we fit together.
Love is what binds us, through fair or stormy weather.

"I stand before you now with only one agenda- to let you know my heart is yours..."


S01E02
[Jay]
What's the key to being a great dad? Ah, that's a tough one.
 
Okay, the key to being a good dad?
Look, sometimes things work out just the way you want; sometimes they don't.
You gotta hang in there.
Because when all is said and done, 90% of being a dad... is just showin' up.


S01E06
[Claire]
Did I loose the race to make him feel better?
Maybe.
But it just seemed like he could use a win today.

We do strange things for the people we love.
We lie to them.
We lie for them.
There may be some bumps along the way, but we never stop wanting the best for them.
That's what makes it such a tough job.
Kind of the best job in the world.


S01E07
[Jay]
We tell our kids it doesn't matter if you win or lose, but let's be honest.
Winning feels pretty great.
There's nothing like that golden moment in the sun.
I think every parent probably wants that for their child. And maybe a little bit for ourselves, too.
Sometimes we push too hard. And that leads to a lot of resentment and guilt.

So, how much is too much?
Here's where I come out.
Guilt fades. Hareware is forever.


S01E10
[Jay]
We talk a lot about tradition this time of year.
But as much as we love our traditions, sometimes our best memories come from the times that are the most untraditional.
We remember the year mom and dad went crazy.
We remember the year Santa punched out the caroler.
But for me, this was the year that the word "tradition" got a lot bigger.


S01E13
[Mitchell]
Can people change? I don't know.
People are who they are-give or take, yeah, 15%. That's how much people can change if they really want to.
Whether it's for themselves, or for the people they love-yeah, yeah, 15%.
But you know what? Sometimes that's just enough.


S01E16
[Phil]
Everybody's afraid of something, right?
Heights, clowns, tight spaces.
Those are things you get over.
But then there's our children.
Will they fit in?
Will they be safe?
Those are fears you never get past.
So, sometimes all you can do is take a deep breath, pull'em close and hope for the best.

I mean, things don't always work out.
But you gotta love it when they do.


S01E18
[Mitchell]
This is the funny thing about growing up.
For years and years, everybody's desperately afraid to be different, you know, in any way.
And then, suddenly, almost overnight, everybody wants to be different, and that is where we win.


S01E24
[Jay]
Back in '68, I was sweeping up hair in that barbershop.
I had this mental picture of the family that, if I was lucky enough, one day I would end up with- perfect wife, perfect kids.
Guess what, I didn't get any of that.
Wound up with this sorry bunch.
And I'm thankful for that every day.

1.1我们来自不同的世界，但我们彼此相容 ,爱将我们紧紧相连，共度风风雨雨.我到你的前面，只有一事相许，我的心只属于你。we're from different worlds, yet we somehow fit together. Love is what binds us, through fair or stormy weather. I stand before you now with only one agenda:"to let you know my heart is yours.

1.2那么，成为好父亲的秘诀是什么，有时候事情会如你所愿,有时候则事与愿违，但你要坚持，因为当一切尘埃落地，一个好父亲的大部分特征就会自然出现。Okay, the key to being a good dad? Sometimes things work out just the way you want. Sometimes they don't. You gotta hang in there. Because when all is said and done,90% of being a dad is just showin'up.

1.3不觉得好像伸出手臂就能拥抱全世界吗？Doesn’t it feel like these arms could go around the world?

1.4你们都极力想护住些美好的东西.You’re reaching out, trying to hold on to something awesome.

1.5【大家一起跳进泳池】
1.6 我是故意输掉让他开心点的吗？也许吧。但在今天，他需要这一场胜利.我们常常为了深爱的人做些稀奇古怪的事，我们对他们撒谎，我们为他们撒谎。或许生活中难免坎坷颠簸，但我们总希望他们过得尽善尽美。就像是肩负着最沉重的负担，但却是世上最甜蜜负担。Did I lose the race to make him feel better? Maybe. But it just seemed like he could use a win today. We do strange things for the people we love. We lie to them, we lie for them. There may be some bumps along the way, but we never stop waiting the best for them. That’s what makes it such a tough job. Kind of the best job in the world.

1.7我们教育孩子们说，输赢无所谓。但平心而论，胜利的感觉好极了。他们在阳光下的那一刻是无与伦比的美丽。也许每位家长都希望孩子能有这样的时刻，甚至希望自己也能这样。有时我们太苛求结果，结果导致许多怨恨和愧疚，怎么才不算过分呢，我的想法是:愧疚总会过去，奖牌才是硬道理。We tell our kids it doesn’t matter if you win or lose. But let’s be honest, winning feels pretty great. There’s nothing like that golden moment in the sun. I think every parent probably wants that for their child, and maybe a little bit for ourselves too. Sometimes we push too hard, and that leads to a lot of resentment and guilt. So, how much is too much? Here’s where I come out: Guilt fades. Hardware is forever.

1.8【Phil请乐队唱定情歌给Clair惊喜】
1.9如果你在派对举办之前问我是否希望发生一系列灾难的连锁反应，导致Luke摔伤了胳膊，我很可能会说不。但是，不管怎么样，Luke在他生日这天是众人关心的焦点，而且全家人都聚在一起，那正是家庭生日会该有的样子。If you’d asked me before the party if I wanted there to be a chain reaction of disasters that led to Luke breaking his arm, I probably would’ve said no. But, one way or another, Luke was the center of attention on his birthday and the whole family was together just the way it should be.

1.10每年的这个时候，我们就会经常谈论传统，尽管我们深爱着自己的传统，但有时候我们最美好的回忆，却来自最颠覆传统的时刻。We talk a lot about tradition this time of year. But as much as we love our traditions, Sometimes our best memories come from the times that are the most untraditional.

1.11如果要我有点大人样，是让我像世上正常的大人那样，还是像家里的这些大人。如果要我像家里的大人一样，那么也没什么难的。【Phil跟Luke在玩水枪】If I’m supposed to act like an adult, is that act like adults I see in the world or the adults in my family? ‘Cause if it's the ones in my family，then，how hard could that be?

1.12【狗管家】
1.13不管是为自己还是为了所爱的人改变，15%，有时候这样就足够了 Whether it’s for themselves or for the people they love, yeah,15%, sometimes that’s just enough.

1.14那会儿我只想回家,但回去呀肯定要想办法道歉我说话太重伤了他们，他们原本大可以记恨我为难我，但他们没有。爱死他们了。 At that moment all I wanted was to be with my family. But of course, that meant finding a way to apologize to the people that I had belittled and rejected. They could have been petty. They really could have made me pay, but they didn’t. Never loved’em more.

1.15【情人节Phil夫妇闹笑话】
1.16每个人都有怕的东西，不是吗？怕高，怕小丑，怕窄小的空间，这些都可以克服，然后我们还有孩子。他们是否合群?是否安全？我们注定要担心一辈子。所以有时我们只能深呼吸，拥抱他们希望一切安好。。Everybody’s afraid of something, right? Heights, clowns, tight spaces. Those are things you get over. But then there’s our children. Will they fit in? Will they be safe? Those are fears you never get past. So sometimes all you can do is take a deep breath, pull’em close and hope for the best.

1.17【Jay向Manny道歉】
1.18为什么梵高会创作《星空》那幅画呢？或许是因为天空很美丽，每个人都喜欢仰望星空，那提醒我们天空中有东西在时刻盯着我们.Why did he paint The Starry Night? Maybe because the sky is beautiful, and everybody likes looking at it, and it reminds us that something’s up there watching over all of us.

1.19【Clair最终买到了IPAD给Phil当生日礼物】
1.20【Clair怕Alex学习压力太大】
1.21【狗跟着Phil的老爸回家】
1.22【全家准备去度假】
1.23【全家回LA】
1.24【全家穿白衣服抹泥巴拍全家福】
 

最近听了一个韩国教授的讲座，主题是东亚电视剧中再现的家庭与家庭关系。他把中国大陆、台湾、韩国、日本这四个国家和地区反映家庭生活的电视剧集进行文本分析，力图比较当代家庭观念在共同处于儒家文化圈、分享相似文化记忆的四个国家和地区的同与异。

进入正题之前，教授首先问了几个问题：
1、何为传统意义的家庭？没有法律意义上的认可，能否称之为家庭？
2、非婚姻的同居关系，是否构成一个家庭？你是否接受非婚姻的关系？
3、一个人能否称之为家庭？离婚后的夫妇和子女，是否仍然属于一个家庭？

上述问题基本得到百分之九十以上的否定答案，这个结果让教授瞠目。

按照他的叙事想象，经过五四文化运动、经过社会主义革命、经过改革开放的中国，似乎已经成为承受西方思想冲击最激烈的地方，家庭观念正发生剧变。对电视剧集进行文本分析的结果显示，在日本进入后家庭时代、韩国关注大家庭结构下父母子女和兄弟姐妹的关系、台湾乡土剧依然演出争权夺利兄弟阋墙时，夫妻关系成为中国家庭剧的叙事中心，中国在最大程度上与西方相似。电视情节即使未必完全反映现实，毕竟也折射出某种情感结构，可供参考。

然而在讲座现场，当代中国的年轻学生对于婚姻和家庭观念的保守却让他震惊。百分之九十以上的学生认为合法的婚姻才能组成家庭，只有得到法律的认可，才是真正的婚姻。这个答案或许让教授感到有些不解。

然而在这个个体思想开始解放、制度层面和社会层面依然落后的国家而言。实在不足为奇。这个社会允许男人三妻四妾，却对独身，尤其是独身女人口诛笔伐。因为这象征一种残缺，一种精神或者肉体上的病征。娶不到老婆或者嫁不出去，就如同脸上烙着黥印，低人一等的耻辱记号，人人得而唾之。所以一个人的家庭，独善其身，在中国，可行度极低。

两个人一起生活却始终不完成法律程序呢，且不说三姑六婆的异样眼光，现实一点，更重要是自己的切身权益。刚刚看到一个例子，一对恋人育有一女，没有去民政部门登记，男方因公殉职，单位赔偿一笔金额，法院将一半赔偿金判给男方父母，一半判给非婚生的女儿。男方父母不依不饶，以两个人未结婚为由，不断上访，否定小女孩的继承权。而这个女性完全不在赔偿考虑范围之内。

婚姻契约把两个人焊接在一起，在中国语境下，契约关系并不仅仅意味着完成父母期望，在人情社会里昂首挺胸，获得某种社会认同，更重要的是，保障一种最小范围内的权益。就是说在对方不幸早逝或者怀抱小三之后，依然拥有一定程度的合法的财产支配权。是的，没有那张纸，真的可能会让你一无所有。

社会习俗作用于思想观念，以至于让人们认为，满足这种种条件，才是正常的家庭。至于异质的形态，对不起，你们自认为是家庭，在别人眼里却是畸形。人的无知和傲慢，没有下限。指手划脚是天性。

于是我想到了美剧《摩登家庭》里刻画的两个非典型意义上的家庭。

Mitchell和Cameron，一对领养了一个越南女孩Lily的同志伴侣，属于被政府和法律认定为不具备婚姻资格和权利的群体。这恐怕是美国主流电视上第一次事无巨细地正面叙述同志家庭抚养小孩的种种琐碎。之前SHOWTIME的Queer as folk和HBO的Six feet under虽然有所提及，但也都是隔靴挠痒，并不作为故事主线。而在这部剧集里，各种啼笑皆非的故事，在这个看似不寻常却又无比寻常的家庭里上演。比如说为送Lily上幼儿园和培养她的社交能力而引发的摩擦，对于Lily姓氏的争吵（Mitchell在填写法律文件时刻意忽略连接符号，使得自己姓氏成为Lily的surname，而Cameron的姓氏却只成为Middle name，这细微的差别引起两人之间极大的波澜）等等。

Jay和Gloria，一个年近六十的成功商人，一个来自哥伦比亚的单身辣妈，年龄的差距、文化背景的差异导致这对夫妇也常常被人用有色眼镜看待，即使是Jay的女儿Claire刚开始也不能接受。剧集不遗余力地展现了Jay和Gloria的儿子Manny逐步培养的父子之情，Gloria为融入Jay的家庭所做的种种努力。老夫少妻或许会引发争议，但这些无碍于他们成为一个充满爱意的家庭。

当然还有典型意义上的美国家庭，一对夫妻，三个子女，一个理想化的中产阶级家庭。生活并不可能定格在广告上一家五口露齿而笑的瞬间，父慈子孝、彩衣娱亲之外，是天然呆儿子惹来的种种麻烦，书呆子女儿和校花女儿的各自的“叛逆”， Claire和Phil为此头痛不已。不过由爱产生的忧虑和争吵，不也正是家庭永恒的旋律？而这个旋律，也始终贯穿在三个家庭之间，不论各自的家庭构成如何。

我想这部剧集在轻松幽默、真挚温情之外，更重要地是让人思考，到底家庭是什么？是否那些与主流相左的，就要被摈除在正常之外？能否用更包容的态度，来审视家庭这个概念？社会观念的转变，是否更需要每个个体的努力？